Another week spent clearing out “things”… I’m slowing down a bit, which is to be expected because at some point, I have to be done, right? Right, sort of. It’s a balance between purging those things that don’t work and reminding yourself daily you don’t need to buy anything more. I’ll spend some time working on that last one–especially when I go out to buy some work tops and find myself in the dresses.
Lots of questions from lots of people on how to reduce “stuff” that I really hadn’t been expecting–and so I will take the moment to answer a couple that when I got them I kind of shrugged-off with an I don’t know (because I’ve now had some time to think about them).
What about the things like pictures, or other nostalgia items?
This is the toughest one. I’ve kept many things for no other reason than nostalgia… or because I had this inherent fear of losing pictures. I still have a few items for no other reason than nostalgia–I’m human after all–but I have a lot less. I allowed myself one Rubbermaid tub of nostalgia items. Watching the entertainment center and the book shelf go, boxing up three generations of albums and dropping them off… none of this was easy by any means, but the question I had to answer–and anyone wishing to do the same was this: Does holding onto the past with objects make my memories any better? And, I will admit, there was pain in doing it, but there was a sense of freedom in letting go and trusting myself to my memories.
How and where do you even start?
Once you have the desire, the task can seem overwhelming. How you start is you pick a date… schedule time–a lot of time (a whole afternoon, or a whole day). Not having that kind of time is an excuse–you make the time you want and need for yourself. Scheduling it makes it real… cheating the time for yourself is only cheating yourself.
Where you start depends on what you want to do… my suggestion, and the suggestion of those before me is to pick one room, or one closet, or one area. Do only that until it is done. Once it is done, it stays done–in other words, don’t derail yourself by cleaning out the closet only to clean another room and stick it all in that closet. If you haven’t used it in 6 months, chances are you don’t need it. “Someday” is a burden than may never happen.
- Schedule a pick up with the donation center–this is a good driver since it will reduce your time to take it all over. Remember someone else might actually need something you simply aren’t using.
- When all is said and done–get a massage. One, you will need it, but it’s a great incentive to keep going!
- Do what a friend of mine did this past weekend and invite friends over to stake their claim to the items you no longer want or need.